16 Sep Dictionary and Terms
The world of swinging has developed its own set of terminology over the years. We have put together a list of all the swingers terms and to help you get a better understanding of the swingers lifestyle. This list should help you understand most of it.
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AC/DC ADULT ALL CULTURES AMERICAN CULTURE ANAL SEX ANALINGUS ANIMAL TRAINING ARTS B&D or B/D BBW BESTIALITY BI BI-CURIOUS BIZARRE BONDAGE CAN ENTERTAIN CAN TRAVEL CANING CHEATING CLEAN CLOSED DOOR CLOSED SWINGING CLOSET SWINGER COUPLE CPL CUCKOLD CULTURE CUNNILINGUS DILDO DIRECTOR DISCIPLINE DISCREET OR DISCRETION DOCILE DOMESTIC TRAINING DOMINANT ELLIS ENGLISH CULTURE ENTERTAIN EXHIBITIONIST F FELLATIO FETISH FLAGELLATION FRENCH CULTURE FUN AND GAMES GAY GBM GENEROUS GREEK CULTURE GROUP ROOM GROUP SEX GWM HARD CORE HARD SWINGING HEAD HEDONIST HETEROSEXUAL HOMOSEXUAL HORNY HUNG HWP INDOOR INDOOR SPORTS INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP IRL ISO LEATHER LESBIAN LTR MARITAL AIDS MASOCHISM MASTER/SLAVE MATROOM MEET FOR PLEASURE MENAGE A’ TROIS MORESOMES MBC MBiC MWC NASCA NEWCOMERS NONSMOKER OFF-PREMISE OPEN DOOR OPEN SWINGING ORAL-GENITAL ORGY PARTY PARTY CLOTHES PARTY HOUSE PASSIVE PHOTO PHOTOGRAPHY P/P PRO RECREATIONAL SWINGER RESTRAINT ROMAN ROMAN CULTURE RUBBER SADISM SAFE S.A.S.E. SBF SBiF SBM SGL S&M or S/M SINGLE SOCIAL SOCIAL SWING CLUB SODOMY SOFT SWINGERS SOFT SWINGING SRS STD STR or STR8 STRAIGHT SUBMISSIVE SWAPPING SWEDISH CULTURE SWF SWING MAGAZINE SWINGING SWINGING LIFESTYLE SWINGING MARRIAGE SWM TAN THREESOME TICKET TOYS TRANSSEXUAL TRANSVESTITE TRAVEL TRIAD TRIOLISM TUBAL LIGATION UTOPIAN SWINGER VASECTOMY VERSATILE VIBRATOR VOLUPTUOUS VOYEUR VOYEURISM WAY-OUTS/WEIRDOS
Person who enjoys both same sex and opposite sex sexual activity; Bi; Bisexual.
Euphemism for pornographic.
- ALL CULTURES
Person or couple who enjoys all fetishes and sexual activities (see CULTURE)
- AMERICAN CULTURE
Man on top, the missionary position.
- ANAL SEX
Anal intercourse; (see GREEK CULTURE)
Oral contact or stimulation of the anus of one partner by kissing, licking, or sucking of the other.
- ANIMAL TRAINING
Sexual activity with animals, usually dogs and women; Bestiality
Euphemism for fetishes; (see CULTURE)
- B&D or B/D
Bondage and discipline; use of various methods to restrain someone while administering discipline, usually done by a “master” to his/her “slave”. (see BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
Big Beautiful Woman; Referring to women that may not be their “ideal” weight, but are comfortable with the size that they are.
(see ANIMAL TRAINING)
Bisexual: Versatile (see AC/DC)
A Male or Female who is interested in trying same-sex activities.
Unusual sexual desires
A sexual fetish in which restraints such as ropes, chains, cloth or leather straps are used to bind, tie or hold a participating sexual partner. The person doing the binding is considered “dominant” while the person being bound is considered “submissive.”
- CAN ENTERTAIN
Advertiser willing to invite others to their home for swinging.
- CAN TRAVEL
Advertiser willing to travel to your home to swing.
A spanking fetish employing a light cane usually bamboo or other light wood.
Sexual activity with others without spouse’s knowledge and/or consent.
Hygienic; Free of sexually transmitted diseases
- CLOSED DOOR
(see CLOSED SWINGING)
- CLOSED SWINGING
Sexual interaction among couples using separate rooms, usually in the same house. Provides a maximum of privacy.
- CLOSET SWINGER
A person who hides the fact that he/she is a swinger. (see DISCREET)
In swinging, a man and a woman. May be married, living together (cohabitating), committed (on going relationship) or a single couple dating for swinging purposes.
While the originally meaning is the husband of a wife who cheats, it has come to mean (more often than not) a husband who’s wife plays without him and comes home to tell him about it. It can also mean a husband who watches his wife play with others, or is forced to watch. This can also be reversed on the wife. Since different people use the word to mean different things, it is best to ask the people using the word in order to clarify the definition.
Euphemism for Fetish or Arts.
Stimulation of the vagina and clitoris by the mouth especially the tongue and lips, and sometimes the teeth (see FRENCH CULTURE)
An artificial penis, usually made of rubber or plastic, for sexual stimulation of the vagina and sometimes the anus.
The term used to describe the principal person who runs or otherwise operates a swing club, generally the owner. A person who works for the director and is responsible for party or club operation whether or not for pay, is generally called a Manager.
A sexual fetish in which one partner dominates the other, a willing participant. Often includes physical punishment of the submissive partner, ranges from physical restraint to mild spankings to painful beatings.
- DISCREET OR DISCRETION
Asking those who write or call to exercise caution so that children or others who may open mail or answer phone will not be offended and/or made aware of the swinging activity.
Willing to receive bondage and/or discipline (see SUBMISSIVE).
- DOMESTIC TRAINING
Submissive obedience to household chores of an intimate and humiliating nature.
A sexual partner in control of a willing submissive partner.
A generally accepted code name used to identify members of the swinging lifestyle. Ellis stands for L.S. (Lifestyle). The question “Are you a friend of Ellis?” can be used to help identify a member of the lifestyle without compromising confidentiality
- ENGLISH CULTURE
Sexual stimulation from spanking or caning
(see CAN ENTERTAIN)
Behavior in which an individual experiences sexual arousal or pleasure from displaying his/her body. Enjoys being watched.
Sexual stimulation of the penis by the mouth, especially by the tongue and lips and sometimes teeth.
Sexual arousal and pleasure through use of non-sexual objects, actions or non-genital anatomy.
Sexual stimulation derived from pain, usually whipping or spanking.
- FRENCH CULTURE
Oral-genital sexual activity; (see Fellatio, Cunnilingus)
- FUN AND GAMES
Euphemism for sexual activity.
A homosexual person, male or female. A gay female may also be called a Lesbian.
Gay Black Male
Refers to money for sex.
- GREEK CULTURE
- GROUP ROOM
Room set aside for group sex, generally furnished with wall-to-wall mattresses or pads. Term is prevalent in western US (see MATROOM).
- GROUP SEX
Swinging; Sexual activity between three or more people.
Gay White Male
- HARD CORE
A swing party or swing engagement where sexual interaction is assumed and expected.
- HARD SWINGING
(see HARD CORE)
Oral-genital sexual activity; “Giving head” (see FRENCH CULTURE)
Someone who lives for pleasure.
Sexual attraction to members of the opposite sex.
Sexual attraction to members of the same sex. (See GAY)
Sexually tense; In need of sexual pleasure.
Refers to a man with a large penis.
Height-Weight Proportionate; Someone who is at their ideal body weight.
Swinging activities in general
- INDOOR SPORTS
- INTERESTED IN FRIENDSHIP
Seeks a swinging relationship that includes emotional and recreational values.
In Real Life; Used in ads or online chat
In Search Of; Used in ads; MWC ISO Single Female
A fetish; Sexual stimulation through the wearing or touching of leather or leather garments.
A woman sexually and emotionally attracted to other women. (see GAY)
Long Term Relationship
- MARITAL AIDS
Dildos, vibrators, and other devices used for sexual pleasure of self and others.
Sexual gratification through receiving pain and humiliation from others.
Participants in a bondage and discipline sexual relationship. (see B&D, BONDAGE, DISCIPLINE)
Room set aside for group sex. Principally an eastern US term (see GROUP ROOM).
- MEET FOR PLEASURE
Will meet for swinging sex; no pretense for social or emotional interaction not directly related to sexual activity.
- MENAGE A’ TROIS
Three people, two of one sex, one of the opposite sex in a swinging interaction. (see THREESOME, TRIAD)
More than three people in a swinging interaction. (see GROUP SEX)
Married Black Couple
Married Bisexual Couple
Married White Couple
The North American Swing Club Association. An association of swing clubs and magazines to promote swinging as the viable and beneficial lifestyle it has become. Levels of members: Affiliate Club, General, Associate and Institutional for swing clubs and magazines, general swinging community, media and institutions of learning and research.
New people in swinging; First-timers.
Does not smoke. If used in personal ad means only those who do not smoke are sought for swinging purposes.
No swinging takes place at the club or party; you meet and make your own arrangements. Great for newcomers.
- OPEN DOOR
(see OPEN SWINGING)
- OPEN SWINGING
A couple swinging with another couple in the same room; Several or all participating couples together in the same room. A minimum of privacy.
(see FRENCH CULTURE, CUNNILINGUS, FELLATIO, HEAD)
Sexual interaction among several men and women in the same room; Complete absence of inhibition in everyone taking part; group sex.
Gathering of three or more people of both sexes for swinging.
- PARTY CLOTHES
Clothing particularly adapted for swing party wear, Includes wear to the party and wear to change into during the party. The latter includes robes, lingerie, terry cloth wrap-arounds and other simple wear that is easily removed, shows the wearer to best advantage and often makes selected parts of the body easily available for erotic courting and play.
- PARTY HOUSE (Western US)
A non-membership swing club offering a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties.
Quiet, submissive non-contributor, willing to receive corrective training. Docile and submissive in swinging. (see DISCIPLINE)
Interested in exchange of nude or sexually explicit photos of self with similar photos of others.
Interested in exchange and/or making of nude or sexually explicit photographs, color slides or movies with similar photographs, slides or movies of others; interested in meeting with others for the making of these photographs.
Photo and phone number (used in personal ads).
Professional; i.e. prostitutes or paid escorts.
- RECREATIONAL SWINGER
A person who practices swinging primary as a recreational diversion;
not interested in forming any long term friendship or emotional attachment.
Mild bondage used in sexual fantasy enactments.
Group sex, orgies, the party scene, etc (see ROMAN CULTURE)
- ROMAN CULTURE
Condom means of contraception; sexual stimulation through the look, feel and smell of rubber, usually associated with B&D.
Sexual gratification through inflicting pain and humiliation on others.
Used to describe a person who cannot conceive or impregnate; a man who has had a vasectomy; Naturally or surgically sterile.
Self-addressed stamped envelope.
Single Black Female
Single Bisexual Female
Single Black Male
- S&M or S/M
Sadism and Masochism (see SADISM, MASOCHISM).
A swinger without a partner, does not refer to marital status.
A party, dance or other gathering usually sponsored by a swing club or magazine, for swingers to meet and socialize. There is no swinging at a social, but privately arranged swinging may follow a social.
- SOCIAL SWING CLUB
A swing club, generally private membership that offers social and swinging activities including a regular schedule of on-premise swing parties. They may also offer educational and travel activities. Usually there is a membership fee and either party fees, party donations or a regular maintenance fee or dues. Party attendance may be restricted to couples though the marital status of the couple is rarely important.
Non-coital, especially anal or oral, copulation with either an opposite sex or same sex partner.
- SOFT SWINGERS
Couples who only have intercourse with their own partner. No swapping for intercourse.
- SOFT SWINGING
The term used to describe same-room sex, watching/being watched, or any sexual encounter up to, but not including intercourse, with someone other than your spouse. The first experience for many couples some type of soft-swinging. (see HARD SWINGING, HARD CORE).
Same Room Sex (see SOFT SWINGING).
Sexually Transmitted Disease. A term developed in the late 1970’s to replace VD as the latter carried social and moral implications in the minds of many. These social and moral implications interfered with the legitimate treatment of sexually transmitted diseases as a medical problem.
- STR or STR8
Any person who is not interested in engaging in homosexual activity or A person who does not use drugs; also used by swingers to denote non-swinging people.
Passive, wishes to be dominated (see PASSIVE)
Two couples exchanging partners for sexual activity.
- SWEDISH CULTURE
Use of the hands especially in massage to sexually stimulate another
Single White Female
- SWING MAGAZINE
A periodical catering to the swinging community. Usually carries personal ads of people wishing to meet others for swinging purposes. May also publish articles of general interest to the swinging community.
An alternative lifestyle for consenting adults who enjoy social, recreational sexual activities with others, most often on a couple-to-couple basis, with full knowledge and mutual consent of both partners; single men and women are sometimes involved.
- SWINGING LIFESTYLE
Style of living with swinging a major component in recreation, choice of friends, business and social life, and intimate relationships.
- SWINGING MARRIAGE
Marriage incorporating swinging and often, humanistic ideals.
Single White Male
Tested Antibody Negative for HIV virus (AIDS)
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a swinging encounter. (see MENAGE A’ TROIS)
A person, usually a woman, brought to a swing party solely to enable the male to gain entrance. The ticket generally has no intention to swing or is not free to swing.
Sexual aids (see MARITAL AIDS)
Individual who has undergone conversion from one gender to another through surgery and hormone treatments; or one who is in the process of gender conversion
A person who receives sexual gratification by wearing clothes identified with the opposite sex; not necessarily homosexual.
(see CAN TRAVEL)
Three people, two of one sex and one of the other in a continuing relationship of emotional and sexual involvement. Not the same as a threesome.
Used in personal ads to indicate desire for “threesomes”. This is a common but confusing usage (see TRIAD)
- TUBAL LIGATION
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the fallopian tubes to make a woman infertile. Also called a Band Aid Operation in reference to the small incision made just below the navel to enable the cutting and ligation.
- UTOPIAN SWINGER
A person who practices swinging as a total lifestyle with humanistic ideals.
Surgical procedure of cutting and tying the vas deferens to artificially sterilize a male.
Bisexual. (see AC/DC)
Electrically run vibrating device for stimulation of the vagina by insertion or holding to outer lips, clitoris, breasts and the male penis. Some vibrators are penile shaped and are run by batteries while more expensive ones are for surface use and are run by an AC motor from a typical wall outlet. Vibrators are used by both men and women for self-stimulation and to sexually please another.
Fullness of beauty and form; usually used to refer to a woman with large well-formed breasts; may also refer to full but well formed hips.
A person who enjoys watching others in sexual acts.
Sexual gratification by watching or peeping at others engaged in sexual activity.
Those people interested in activities usually considered by the majority to be bizarre, kinky, unusual, or unconventional.